The most precious gift you can give anyone

Precious Gift - TimeIt has been nearly five days since I lost the most wonderful caring person in my life. As some of you may know, my Mum had been battling bowel cancer since early 2010, and she passed away at 6am Wednesday 28th November 2012.

As the sun rose that morning the rain stopped and we had glorious sunshine every day until I left Cornwall Saturday – after the wet stormy weather it was somewhat ironic, but also fitting, as we now have the calm after the storm.

No monetary value could replace the gap left in our lives. No force known to mankind can change the circumstances we now face. The only thing I could ever ask for is more time.

Time is the most precious gift.

You often hear the following phrases:

  • I have all the time in the world for them.
  • Any time!
  • We had a superb time!

All phrases that signify that time means a lot to the person. There are also negative phrases that mean they will not waste time on a person or task.

Stuart & MumI was close to my Mum, but now I know how little I actually knew about her. Sadly the time for learning about her in her own words has passed; we don’t have that time, time has passed us by, and maybe time wasn’t on our side.

Mum did teach me about time though:

  • Give people the time of day.
  • Spend time listening to people.
  • Time is a healer.

The most precious gift is one that we all have the ability to give and receive, but yet the thing we waste the most, and more so as times have changed. With new ways to waste time, many of which far out weigh the benefits of time saving inventions and methods, you are often left wondering “Where does it all go?”

Sadly time is limited, never to be seen again, ultimately making it the most precious gift we have.

Photo credit: asenat29

9 Responses to The most precious gift you can give anyone
  1. Teena
    December 2, 2012 | 11:59 pm

    Bless you darling…….time will heal you…..xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  2. Colin Woon
    December 3, 2012 | 12:15 am

    Thoughts with you..

  3. Janette and Dave
    December 3, 2012 | 7:45 am

    Bless you Stu that is a lovely post, hope you are not suffering too much, cherish all the memories, they are so important xx

  4. Brian Lyle
    December 3, 2012 | 8:56 am

    Stu, that is so eloquent and heartfelt, every word tears at the emotions. Being close to the sad events of the past years, we can appreciate and understand the devastation and emptiness that you, Kay and Dale are suffering. Bear in mind though, that Time, that you recognise as so precious, has another attribute, that of being the great healer, and whilst you will never totally forget your loss, you will be able to come to terms with it, and as I’ve said before, you will find yourself remembering best the good things and the happy times.
    Be as strong as I know you are.
    Love to all of you

  5. Dad
    December 3, 2012 | 8:57 pm

    Stuart I am so proud of you. Nothing could have captured your feelings yet show your strength through this more than that did. The way you have handled this with such dignity , along with your support for Kay,Dale and Richad has been exemplary. Xx

  6. looloo
    December 4, 2012 | 1:21 am

    I love all the comments above and those left elsewhere.
    I think that Stu is an awesome person and love him for all that he is. I believe the fact that he is who he is is a wonderful tribute to his mum.

  7. Michelle Hill
    December 4, 2012 | 10:16 pm

    Stu…so beautifully written and so very true. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time xxxxxxxxx

  8. Elizabeth Gatumia
    August 10, 2015 | 5:25 pm

    How absolutely honest this article is. I lost my Mum last year, May 2014 & though I spent as much time as I could with my Mum, the feeling of absence, loss still lingers. I miss her so much it’s unbelievable. So I console many times by telling myself that she is actually around. It’s just that she is not with me. However ridiculus that may sound, it has helped me go through a whole year of not seeing her. We celebrated her anniversary this year in May & I found that my emotions are still too raw to want to accept the reality….So until I find another solution to the heartbreaking loss, I’ll continue pretending she is around; with any of my siblings. Just not with me!

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